Lessons learned in 2005
I got hit in the head with the good karma genie's wand and will be going to Hawaii for Christmas with the ticket, can anyone guess who, bought for me. This will likely be my last post for 2005 as I don't anticipate myself having the time or desire while in Hawaii, to work on the computer. As I was driving around today, for hours, doing my last minute Christmas shopping, I became very reflective and started thinking about the lessons I've learned in the last year. The past 3 or so years have been quite full of change for me, but 2005 in particular was especially full of change. I love to learn and love to think. I believe we never fully 'grow up' and are constantly given lessons to learn. I'm not sure of the frequency of these lessons, but I believe the challenge in life is to find the lessons presented to us. I suspect lessons are thrown at us much more frequently than we realize and we end up not learning from something we should or could have. I think we have to be open in order to see what we're supposed to learn. Is anyone following this? A very wise co-worker once told me we're given the same lesson over and over again until we learn it. I sometimes think I need a tutor, but I did learn some things this year.
1. Change is inevitable. Learn to embrace or at least accept it.
2. Not everything is about me, or you, or anyone else for that matter. Sometimes you just need to realize, it is what it is, and not read more into it.
3. My mind is too full of other thoughts and my heart too full of other feelings to keep anger in there very long. There just isn't room.
4. People are infinitely capable of redemption.
5. Forgiveness is about ME feeling better. It just feels better to forgive than to not forgive.
6. "If I were you, I would....." doesn't work. It's human nature for us to expect others to think, feel, and behave as we do, or at least think we would, but we're all different and don't always act as we or others predict. Not everyone fits in the same box. That would be quite boring.
7. Everybody loves differently, in their own way.
8. My actions and reactions are my own and absolutely don't have to be dependent upon anyone else's. Put more simply, just because someone isn't kind or truthful to me, doesn't mean I can't be kind or truthful to them.
9. Before you even think about judging, put yourself in the other person's shoes. Even if it's just for a fleeting moment.
10. Always TRY to understand that which you do not. You may never, but at least you tried.
11. Give because you want to, not because you want something back. People give back in all different ways and forms, and they don't always match yours.
12. If you have something to say, say it.....especially if it's nice.
posted by Farkle @ 9:10 PM
2 Comments:
Nice Diana: I am glad that you are beginning to understand that you can give but not expect something in return or not of equal value. It is nice to give and thaqt is coming from you. Not everyone knows how to give in the same way that you give.
"My actions and reactions are my own and absolutely don't have to be dependent upon anyone else's. Put more simply, just because someone isn't kind or truthful to me, doesn't mean I can't be kind or truthful to them."
I agree it is best to thiink for yourself and act and react according to how you feel about the situation. People may make you react in a certain way that will affect you one way or another. Or maybe not at all.
very insightful my friend. I like #11 the best. I dont believe it's a gift from the heart unless it is given without any thought of what we might receive in return. I also love random acts of kindness. I witnessed this the other day in Starbucks. There was this woman who had received a giftcard for a present, and it was for 10$. She bought 10$ worth of coffee/beverages for the people in line behind her. She told the cashier to start taking the orders of the people behind her, until the total had reached 10$. The kindness spread, because some of the people that normally get a more "mixed" drink, ordered cheaper regular coffee's, so that a more folks could benefit from the 10$. It was very cool.
Another thing I learned in 2005.....It's hard to imagine what it's like to be someone else with your own opinions in the mix. You do have to open a wider area of your heart to see that difference does not equal bad or something to fear, but something to let be and possibly cultivate and even celebrate.
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